The Upside of Pain, Sickness and Death

Pain, Sickness and Death
Becoming Friendly With The Worst That Can Happen                               

Next 6 week teleclass: TBD (coming soon February 2018) $295

When I first began to do The Work, to identify and then investigate my beliefs, I could hardly imagine accepting pain, sickness, injury, accidents, or death.

It almost felt dangerous, like a betrayal, to question my sacred thoughts that dying is bad, pain is bad, and sickness is bad, in any and all circumstances.

It seemed there was never anything good about getting cancer, or having a friend die, or having a parent get injured, or even learning about war, injury, accidents or death.

These things seemed so unpleasant, so terrible, that I would rather not consider them at all.

Can’t we just forget about them?

I notice that I don’t really forget about them. Or they might be right up in my face, so that I can’t.

But here in this place of open inquiry…we investigate together our deepest painful beliefs about what hurts, especially what hurts physically.

“I have helped people do The Work on rape, war in Vietnam and Bosnia, torture, internment in nazi concentration camps, the death of a child, and the prolonged pain of illnesses like cancer. Many of us think that it’s not humanly possible to accept extreme experiences like these, much less meet them with unconditional love. But not only is that possible, it’s our true nature.”~Byron Katie in Loving What Is 

Those who wish to, you are invited into this journey of inquiry. The thoughts appear. We investigate. I would love to have you along on this amazing adventure.

Class 1: The Biggest Pain I Ever Felt – we explore the most painful physical experience we’ve had

Class 2: The Sickness That Scares Me The Most – your most terrifying encounter with a disease or condition that feels threatening

Class 3: They Shouldn’t Suffer – Our troubling thoughts about the way those other people are suffering

Class 4: Pain and Suffering Inventory – Allowing all the moments to be here that have ever hurt us or hurt people we knew

Class 5: Pain and Suffering Continues – More investigation to our list of what hurt

Class 6: The Worst Case Scenario

“Until we know that death is as good as life, and that it always comes at just the right time, we’re going to take on the role of God without the awareness of it, and it’s always going to hurt. Whenever you mentally oppose what is, you’re going to experience sadness and apparent separation. There’s no sadness without a story. What is, is. You ARE it.”~ Byron Katie in 1000 Names For Joy

You can get started on your own right now by beginning to write about your worst experiences, the ones that when you remember them, you are most filled with pain and suffering. See what it is you are believing that brings up terror, sadness, anxiety or discouragement.

If you’d like to talk or set up an appointment, write I’m happy to have a conversation. You can use the button below if you’re read to enroll in the next teleclass (make sure you’ve got the current schedule).

12 Replies to “The Upside of Pain, Sickness and Death”

  1. Thankyou for letting me know, I will absolutely keep that in mind (the timing). It is leaning towards being an afternoon course. :) Looking forward to doing The Work with you. Love, Grace

  2. Hi Grace,
    I love reading your posts every morning, they feel like a warm cleansing shower for the mind. thank-you for sharing your wisdom!!!After losing many loved ones to illness or accidents i feel a contraction when thinking about death or illness, i am definitely interested in this course. will be waiting for the time to be determined and crossing fingers it’s after 2pm.
    Warm regards~

  3. Hi Deborah,
    Yes, Absolutely, would love to have you. I will send you the information and details directly via email. So sorry for this loss, and I know it is possible to understand in a new way this experience, so that you have peace.

  4. Dear Grace,
    My fiance passed away two months ago from pancreatic cancer. I’ve been heading steeply downward ever since. The loneliness, the lost closeness, the lost dreams, the hopelessness, the finality. A friend sent the link to your class to me, and I realize I’ve missed the first session. Is it too late to join?

  5. i would love to participate. i’m scheduled for major surgery on jan 7. when does the teleclass go until?

  6. Hello and thanks for writing. The class is actually a teleclass. You need your phone to dial in, and a way of being comfortable to be on the phone for 90 minutes each week for 6 weeks. Some people have headsets, but it is not required. It is also possible to use skype on the computer to dial in (for no charge). The philosophy does not conflict with Christian beliefs, it is a way of looking at the thoughts that create stress, sadness or resistance. I would recommend reading the book Loving What Is by Byron Katie for her great introduction to The Work and changing stressful thinking. Thanks for your interest and many blessings, Grace

  7. A dear friend a colleague gave your link to me. May I ask where the class will be held? And do the beliefs of Byron Katie conflict with basic Christian beliefs? Thanks for your reply. :)

  8. Hi Carol, yes absolutely I offer scholarships. I generally ask people to consider what they can pay successfully, and I always say that I will not be offended by any amount–which is true! Then I put it into my list and let you know before the class begins. By the way, the Pain class is 6 weeks and only $295 (not $400). And of course you may still consider what you could pay. Write me directly at and I can keep you up-to-date on the details!

  9. The pain, sickness and death workshop sounds timely, as I’ve lived over 25 years with CFS/fibromyalgia, needed to downsize to a tiny apartment to pay for health care, and living on $639/month from SSI gets more and more challenging. A dear friend died Aug. 13 of a sudden heart attack, after living with a strange cancer for 7 years. I still feel very sad to lose her, for she was one of the few people who welcomed me into her home when I visited California, and we’ve been friends since our sons were 2, about 40 years.
    Do you have a sliding scale? I cannot afford the cost of almost $400 for six weeks, and it reminds me of the many retreats I cannot do because of costs. I can get very discouraged, and at times,I am better at living each day rather than judging myself.
    Any suggestions?

  10. HI David,
    Wonderful, I will make a note of it. Updates will be included in my daily letters that I send, if you’re on the email list. And, I’ll let you know personally when the class will start.
    Best, Grace

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