Money Money Mondays: Let’s Investigate the Problem and Transform our Experience
Identify What You Believe About Money That Keeps You From Feeling Peace
NEW CLASS: Money Loving This Story 2019 February 4 – April 22
One of the most difficult steps in understanding the pain and stress around money is….identifying what the honest stressful beliefs actually are, so you can take them through a rigorous mind-washing process, called The Work!
It can be astonishing what occurs when we question our beliefs about money.
We begin simply.
Thoughts about money appear in the mind regularly like….”I need more” or “There’s never quite enough” or “it could be terrible in the future without money” or “I didn’t have enough once, and it was awful.”
But then, through prompts and exercises, we find some deeper access to understanding money and why we want it, how we’ve gotten mixed up along the way, and where the “stings” about money appear.
If you’re angry, upset, sad, anxious or scared about money, you can find immense relief by questioning your thoughts about it.
Wealthy people and people in exceptionally low income have all taken this course.
This is about your internal wealth and abundance when you DON’T feel it, or your criticism and frustration, even if you have a lot….and questioning your suffering.
So where do we begin with thoughts and questions about money? Worries about time, money, bills, employees, marketing and success are so common, it’s considered crazy if you AREN’T worried about the future.
Are we really supposed to feel pain, nervousness or angst about our jobs, our businesses, and money?
I used to feel *horrible* about my capacity to earn, and full of disdain about the system. I hated that I wanted more money, and that I even needed it in the first place.
I wanted peace around money, which appears to flow in and out for everyone. I was desperate for security, and I wanted to feel much more gentle when it came to just THINKING about money.
In fact, I felt stress when it came to anything that had to do with money: working for it, saving it, spending it, donating it, sharing it, or getting bills.
My story about money and earning was serious, frustrating, and discouraging.
Even when I had some money, I was worried about it going away, and needing more later.
I studied Law of Attraction and read every book I could find about getting money, attracting money, finding money, receiving money, earning money….but not much changed.
Until I began to drop all the effort, clearly identify my beliefs, one by one, and bring them to investigation. The tool I used, as thousands of people do, is called The Work of Byron Katie.
Now, through this investigation I see my mind has a contentious relationship with money, but it is not what’s true, and it’s not necessary to believe those fearful thoughts. Through inquiry, we can see money as a kind and clear friend, and what you do to bring money into your life can be easy, sweet and steady.
The thing that’s most wonderful and liberating to change, when it comes to money, is our thinking. Not the quantity of money.
Here are some common thoughts I’ve heard around work and money, that I’ve held myself:
- I need at least a million dollars saved up for retirement
- I HATE promoting my stuff
- She/he shouldn’t ask me for a loan
- I’m not good enough to become a manager, boss, owner (or other high achievements)
- I need to take more classes and get more training and become more of an expert
- People (boss, parents, family, spouse, friends, clients) need to be convinced I’m doing a good job
- There’s not enough time.
- I don’t want to work.
- Jobs are boring prisons
- I wish we could all live without money altogether
“For some of us, life is controlled by our thoughts about work and money. But if our thinking is clear, how could work or money be a problem? Our thinking is all we need to change. It’s all we CAN change. This is very good news.” ~ Byron Katie in Loving What Is
The power and joy offered in group inquiry offers a shared experience that’s incredibly supportive, looking at this topic called money in our lives.
I also see my own thoughts shift over time, with each inquiry, so that what I believe is required for happiness….is not. The Work is a way to un-do one’s thoughts about money, and live in that sweet awareness of the Don’t Know mind, as Byron Katie calls it.
I have felt the opposite when it came to money and work. I lost every penny, watching my bank account dwindle down to absolutely nothing as I went through a divorce and couldn’t find work. I used my credit card to pay for groceries, borrowed from relatives, and almost lost my house. I considered food stamps since I was eligible for them, and had no health or dental insurance for two years. My kids had to go on Reduced Lunch at their schools. I went to job interviews dreading the outcome, extremely anxious.
Even though I had been a counselor with a private practice part-time, I began to feel totally inadequate offering this service if I couldn’t earn a decent living doing it. I hated marketing my services and talking about myself. I was terrified.
It’s impossible and exhausting believing that jobs are an imposition, or that you are not capable or good enough to do what you do, or that people will criticize your services.
It’s equally exhausting to believe you need, want, or are disgusted with money and what people are doing with it.
Questioning your beliefs about Money and Working can allow you to see that you are enough, and that even just a small course correction of 1 degree in your attitude and your thinking can change your entire future.
Money is a powerful energy for the mind to project onto, and while the mind has moments of thinking money should be different….
….now I know it’s all in the mind. Business and Money are are now fun, almost 100% of the time. And when they aren’t, I do The Work. Join me!
Curriculum Money Course:
WEEK 1: Let’s start at the beginning with what we fear right now. What thoughts run through our heads about money? How do we begin this practice?
WEEK 2: Common beliefs and quips about money. There are many tell-tale sayings about money such as “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”. We’ll look at many of these, and wonder about how our own beliefs have been affected by these warnings or pieces of advice.
WEEK 3: Early education about money. We’ll identify what dad said, did and felt about money.
WEEK 4: Early education continued. We’ll identify what mom said, did and felt about money.
WEEK 5: What do you believe you need to do to “get” money? What does it feel like I need to do, say, or be like in order to get money? What are you most ashamed of, or feeling guilty about that you’ve done to get money?
WEEK 6: We’ll identify our stressful thoughts about giving and receiving. When has someone asked you for money? When has someone offered you money? When have you wanted/tried to ask for money, and it was stressful (even if you received it)?
WEEK 7: What feels gross or uncomfortable about buying, or selling? How is trading of money for something of value stressful?
WEEK 8: What’s wrong with wealthy people? Let’s identify what it means to be wealthy and what’s frightening about that.
WEEK 9: What’s wrong with being poor, or lacking, or in need? Identifying and questioning our fears about not having enough.
WEEK 10: What’s the worst that could happen in the future when it comes to money? Some of our deepest fears and longings appear in our imagined future. Let’s find out how to work with these, in the present without swinging to “I don’t care at all” or “I need to be very careful”.
WEEKS 12 AND 13: Let’s keep going in The Work–what still appears as difficult?
Moving Beyond Fear and Depression in Business:
“Through Grace and her class, I confronted my issues with marketing my business with patience, ease and self-compassion. She helped me open up to all my fears and depression over this issue and move beyond that without pressure and impatience. I learned so much from this course. I highly recommend it. It helped me understand that real freedom is not a how-to-do-it job. It is through being with myself as I am that I can find all the love and enthusiasm I relish from life. Results came out of who I was being, not in doing it “right” or through “effort.”– Ben, New York City
Email me any time to ask about upcoming classes in Money, or to schedule a solo session. I’m happy to talk with you for a shorter conversation (no charge) and I also offer scholarship help to folks in need. This course I offer in service of freedom. Please pay what you feel is right (notice your stressful thoughts if you aren’t sure how much to pay). Everyone is welcome here.
“You can take any job, anytime, and except for your belief systems, money is not a problem. You can work in a hamburger joint and make minimum wage. And if you just hold on to your integrity, without any beliefs about how that should look, eventually you could own the whole chain. Because we’re attracted to that kind of integrity, and money can’t buy it, so we will give you anything to be in your presence”. —-Byron Katie in Question Your Thinking, Change The World
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The suggested fee for the money telecourse is $250-$500 for 3 months, 12 weeks. There are many expenses to run a telecourse including the conference lines, web pages, administrative fees, curriculum build and of course time and expertise.
Give what you can and what feels right, contribute at the beginning to register….contribute at the end if you discover money has changed for you and you’re open to sharing more. This course needs a minimum fee to run. I am deeply honored with whatever you are able to offer.