A retreat for touching the mysterious way the mind works, questioning our struggles, and finding your way back home. Join Grace Bell for a powerful time in self-inquiry with The Work of Byron Katie in her home town.

Four questions. Your answers.

April 30 - May 5, 2024

Location: Private Retreat House in

Lake Forest Park, Washington, USA

Book a 15 min Call to meet Grace and ask your questions
BOOK NOW TO HOLD YOUR SPOT. REGISTRATION INCLUDES TUITION AND SOME MEALS.
YOU'LL CHOOSE LODGING SEPARATELY.

Why attend spring retreat?

The primary task of a good transformational retreat, is not to answer your questions, but to question your answers

Who are we, without our stories? What's that like? Together we get to explore this wonderful experience of being human, thinking, feeling....and play in the mystery.

Nothing like a gathering of like-minded people to share in this powerful understanding, together.

What an amazing gift to step outside of daily life, connect with others, and deeply listen to our inner conversation with reality. Situations, relationships, behaviors come into focus and clarity is found.




This retreat is right for you, if:

  • You are a beginner to The Work and a beginner to questioning your stressful beliefs. You may be acquainted with the method called The Work of Byron Katie and self-inquiry around what you think, but have not actually practiced it yet or repeated the process enough times to receive the internal benefit. You're aware the way you see something troubling can make all the difference in the world....but you'd like to experience this fully, and understand the process from the neck down.
  • You're familiar, even well-practiced in The Work, and you're aware every time you join in this practice with others, you learn, grow and expand your ability for insight, love, empowerment, kindness. You're ready for a new step in your awareness and joy (even awe) for being human.
  • You're a service provider, coach, therapist, parent or healer who supports others, and you know you're capable of offering facilitation that changes lives, rather than see people remain embedded in their difficult stories. You'd like to refine your capacity to work with anyone, especially allowing your own well of unconditional wisdom to be present to others. You know one of the best ways you can bring presence to others, is to feel free within.
  • You seek change around a particular habit of thinking, a way of being, a compulsive behavior that's confusing, painful, and appears to extend your suffering. You have maybe even "tried everything" to stop the insanity. The Work helps us see the way the mind works, to find freedom from getting caught in the struggle and to finally leave it all alone. Whether you've suffered from binge-eating or obsessive thinking about food and body weight, or, you're reaching for screens, alcohol, buying, trauma history, games, over-working, anxiety, wakefulness, depression....this retreat gives us a dopamine-detox, and nourishing time to support us. The Work aligns beautifully with members of 12 Step Programs and can enhance your experience of recovery.
  • You have a very painful situation or relationship that isn't going as you truly desire. You're frightened of the future, or very upset and disappointed about the way it went in the past. You may even have lost faith in life, or lost trust. This work helps those of us suffering from a dilemma or a problem to see the meaning we've gotten stuck in, and discover new ways of seeing that bring possibility, and peace, even if we can't change what happened.
  • You're drawn to spend quality time in a small group, devoting yourself to recognizing the way through and beyond personal dilemmas. You've wanted to attend other in-depth programs (The School for The Work, 10 day Silent Meditation Retreats, Cleanse Retreats, Thought-Leaders' immersion programs) but they are 5x the price or more or scheduled at times you can't attend. You'd like to discover your own answers.
  • You're seeking a reset button in your life on all the tasks, duties, work, obligations, calendar events, and you're ready for a clean-up. You want to unhook from the usual stream of technology, to disconnect from the pace of "incoming" doing, ingesting, busy-ing.
  • You're deeply interested in the great existential questions of human life: Why am I here? Who am I? What does it all mean? What is going on? You're a student of life, but you know entering a monastery or becoming a priest or leaving everything behind isn't your path (at least not now). Still, you want to incorporate faith, love, spirituality, religion (for members of a faith community) more fully into your daily life, your daily activities, your ability to serve and to be in love with the world.

Welcome. This retreat is for you.

“I did The Work, because I was in a hurry.” ~ Byron Katie

By the end of our retreat together, you will....

CLEARLY IDENTIFY YOUR BELIEF SYSTEM

You'll look at what you consider to be "problems" (tiny or large) and listen to what your mind says about them, without interruption, without pushing them away.

DISSOLVE SHYNESS, ANXIETY, SHAME

To meet our thoughts about ourselves, what we're most ashamed of, terrified of, and what we feel is unforgivable....is life-changing.

EXAMINE BODY STORIES: PAIN, CRAVING, INJURY

You'll get to see what your worst fears are about this temporary body, your temporary life, and open to who you are beyond body and self identity

EXPERIENCE FREEDOM FROM LONELINESS

You'll question loss, absence, what you believe should be present that is not (money, a person, the way it used to be). You'll question suffering about impermanence.

SEE RELATIONSHIP WITH PEACE

Understand what you can change and what you can't in any situation, with any person, with love, acceptance and even joyful excitement.

COMMUNITY SHARING CONNECTION

Through hearing others' experience, facilitating others and receiving facilitation, you will connect in the most authentic way possible.

But above all else...

RETREAT will immerse you strongly in the power of The Work of Byron Katie, so you can relax into the freedom of being a happy human, trust and do what works for you in your unique and beautiful life, find like-minded friends as co-facilitators on the journey, and genuinely welcome what is.

It's not just a lofty dream only a select few are capable of falling into, this loving-what-is way of seeing the world. It is who and what you truly are, what we all are. We recognize this when we don't believe our thoughts.

Enrolling reserves your spot.

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"I had heard great things about Grace and I was not disappointed. Her way was gentle, and she always had a great reminder/ suggestion/new perspective that really landed for me."

"I feel extremely grateful for this experience. Now I have quirky new ways of looking at things, such as: 'Everything you need to have a wonderful life will come to you'. More slowing down and letting myself be. This retreat has helped me to open my heart to my own life."

"The retreat met my expectations. It's helpful to witness others sharing their stressful thinking and see them turn it around...Makes me feel connected to the human race."

Grace

After graduating with her Master's Degree in 1997 in Applied Behavioral Science, Grace began working as a Certified Counselor in Washington State in 2003.

After her first School for The Work with Byron Katie in 2005, she changed her entire approach to mental health treatment to focus on the peace and solutions already existing within each of us when we question what we're thinking and believing.

She saw a way of life in practicing self-inquiry that brought loving kindness and empowered acceptance to any troubling situation. She witnessed freedom blossoming in others who had suffered from compulsive behaviors, repetitive fears and angst in relationships. Her private practice built and expanded every year and has been thriving ever since. Gathering in groups is one of her favorite ways of diving into The Work.

"We're all walking each other home". ~ Ram Dass


RETREAT IN SELF-INQUIRY AND KNOWING WHO YOU REALLY ARE

Practicing self-inquiry changes lives

Booking now is $990 and includes several meals, supplies, tuition.

You will book your lodging separately.

BOOK MY SPOT NOW(YOU WILL BOOK YOUR LODGING SEPARATELY) 

Stories from Work With Grace participants

LOVE & SAFETY

"I think Grace has an amazing, loving heart and I can feel how much she loves people and makes it really safe. It’s not clinical, Grace makes me feel so safe and cared for. From safety, I've found courage and freedom to be."

PERFECT TIME

"This is the best modality I could think of to practice The Work. Small group. I felt like it was on the fast track. I quit smoking pot on the last retreat. This was perfect access for me, not being able to go to the School for the Work."

RETREAT OASIS

"The Work in person sticks with me. Away from families, jobs, stressors, you can really be there, unlike at home when you have everything around you. Taking this time has been an oasis."

CAGED TO FREE

"It feels like my soul was caged, and now the jail door is wide open. I can fly. I can face problems, I can face fears and anger. It is amazing!"

What will meals be like, what's our daily schedule, what's the curriculum....and will there be free time?

LISTENING

TO ALL PARTS OF

OURSELVES

Opening Night

Tuesday, April 30, 2024. Arrive any time after 4:00pm to our gathering space. (Check-in for your lodging is dependent on your venue, and you are welcome to arrange earlier check-in or even come a day early or stay a day later if you prefer)

6pm light supper for everyone

7pm First session begins

TOPICS

Curriculum

Retreat in The Work is new and unique every time. The individuals present, the environment, the circumstances, the weather (both inside and outside), the greater world events all organically contribute to a living, creative process.

The benefits of finding your way back home into your own kind, loving, magnificent heart is beyond words. When we question our perceptions of what has happened in our lives, what we've interpreted as true, and what we imagine or predict about the future, our creativity, energy and joy can flow in the Don't Know Mind.

No matter what you've gone through, no matter how much you've suffered, it is possible to find peace and clarity in the present moment.

We will dive into the following topics so you can see what you think and believe, and inquire:

  • wants, desires, hopes, longings
  • unwanted behavior, habits, compulsions
  • fear, anxiety, worry, over-thinking
  • body: appearance, weight, health, illness, pain, aging
  • money, success, abundance, scarcity
  • relationships, gender, attraction, communicating
  • friendship, betrayal, family of origin

DIVING IN

Meals

Our retreat house kitchen will be supplied with a few light cold breakfast foods including oats, nut butter, bread. Coffee and a large variety of teas provided. The full kitchen is well-stocked with cutlery and dishes for everyone. You'll have space for additional foods and groceries to store. Included in retreat tuition is a light welcome supper on April 30th and a catered dinner on Saturday, May 4th.

Exercises

Grace will share exercises that have helped her clearly identify what the feelings showing up in her experience have to say, and what is beyond our psychology when we inquire. These exercises came from journaling, asking some common questions posed in The Work, and noticing the ever-present return to home. They are offered with the awareness that everyone has within what is needed for their own healing, their own amazing life.

LAST MORNING

Closing Morning

Please plan on staying all the way until Noon on our last morning together. The final closing is always a powerful and profound way to move into your next chapter, and know what and how to navigate as you return to your daily life.

It can be disruptive when people need to leave early to catch flights. Relax and enjoy the final morning with us. We suggest not booking at flight until 3pm at the very earliest, so you have time to get to the airport without rushing.

Your venues will have their own check-out time, based on where you are staying. You can ask for a late check-out.

RETREAT IN SELF-INQUIRY AND KNOWING WHO YOU REALLY ARE

Question your suffering, change your world

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(LODGING is SEPARATE)

Gathering together on this retreat pushes the reset button physically, emotionally, spiritually. The benefits are transformational.

01

Awareness when we're identified

We're listening to what our thoughts are saying about life, ourselves, what's good, what's bad, and we're invited to see....it's only our thoughts.

02

Noticing how what we want appears to be missing, but it's not hopeless

When we let our thoughts freely express what we want, dream of, long for, or need....we've got a keyhole to a different way of seeing. One that's satisfied with what is, and enjoying the journey of whatever comes next, ready for change without forcing it to happen, knowing we can find joy in any situation. Amazing.

03

Watching our minds give advice: to others, to life, to ourselves and relaxing anyway

When we notice what our advice is, what we've decided is right or wrong, what should or shouldn't be happening, we can inquire and find our experience of freedom--no matter what's happened.

04

Dropping endless resistance what has been and what might happen later

As we question our thinking in the presence of others, we make friends with the past--we notice it's over, we learn from what happened. We're able to see the profound presence existing within us, even if we have no answers. The future is unknown, and what a gift to feel "willing" to allow it to unfold without our demands

05

Dissolving our thoughts as "the truth" and watching our patterns and behaviors change all on their own

When we see the way our minds get captivated by stories and conditions, we're able to see how those stories naturally change. We can tap into what we really are: unconditional love, freedom, peace, resilience, balance in motion

Lodging

our beautiful kitchen area in our retreat house

our gathering space ready to welcome you with a circle of chairs

Onsite: Lovely shared bunk bed room

A comfortable room for two people with bathroom attached. House quiet hours 10pm-7am

$50/night

Onsite: Couch in Retreat House

Extra sheets and blankets provided for those willing and able to sleep on one of the comfortable and clean couches in our house (gorgeous shared bathroom).

$35/night

Offsite: Several cute Airbnb choices in the neighborhood

Grace can help you find lodging arrangements in a lovely spot close by. There are options for private rooms, as well as options to rent the whole place with 2-4 private bedrooms you could share with other retreat participants who might also be looking for nearby lodging. You will book your favorite choice directly with the venue.

$range/night

Lake Forest Park local dock public park walking distance from our retreat house:

Six days and five nights spent in the depths of inquiry in a safe container with other people, having the structure to focus only on the beliefs that have caused personal pain and suffering (rather than all the daily tasks), and being provided with clear exercises that support truly seeing where things go sideways...

....all of these provide for us an avenue into deepening our love for ourselves, others and the world.

The only way I found that gave me the technology to shift my suffering from agony to a peaceful acceptance, was exploring my own answers to the four questions and finding turnarounds.

Suffering from self-sabotaging behaviors? Furious or in despair because of what someone else has done? Terrified of the future under certain conditions? Traumatized because of the past, a diagnosis, a disappointment? Wanting to understand what all the fuss is all about around questioning our stories and seeing thought for what it really is?

Retreat is perfect for all this.

Because your presence is the reason The Work works. There is no guru, no teacher to consult, no philosophy to memorize, no special psychology or feelings to "get", no religion, no specific step-by-step, no need to seek the entire world for freedom. Retreat simply offers the space and silence to be aware of what we're thinking, and to question it.

"Don't go into hell without these four questions. And if you invite these questions into your life, it becomes impossible to go into hell without them. The questions aren't here to wake you up; it's your answers to the questions that will wake you up. The questions are the invitation. But only you can answer them. And it does take courage."

~ Byron Katie in Loving What Is

Even if you feel you've barely got the courage to come sit with other (possible strangers) and answer these questions, all are welcome to this circle. It is possible for any one of us to recognize who we really are, with or without our stories. Love is revealed when we question our interpretations of what is, our perspective. Love is revealed when we see it's safe to stop arguing with reality, with what happened, with who we are. Love blossoms like summer flowers, in just the right time--not too fast or too slow--and life keeps getting better and better.

At least is sure has for me. I'm so happy I bumped into this work. It's changed my entire life.

We have our one precious life. There is a seat at this table for you.

Enlightenment is available to us, one question, one answer, at a time. Nothing more required.

All my best,

Grace

Question Your Suffering,

Make Peace With Your Life

Spring 2024 Retreat