Wow again. I’m so grateful.
We just finished sexuality teleclass #2, and it such a blessing to have a
forum, a sanctuary, a safe haven with dear friends…
…to bring light into darkness and pain…as we question our thoughts.
Because no matter the topic–food, relationships, sex, money–whatever
we hide and are ashamed of, it’s always painful.
But it just seems that sex has more thoughts-per-square inch
than other topics…even though I know it’s not true.
Today it ALL seemed to come up…
-using sex for love
-using sex for stress management
-wanting people to like us (both women and men)
-thinking “we or they” are perverted (both men and women)
-first noticing our bodies as kids
-taking advantage of others and ourselves (both women and men)
-masturbation (both women and men)
So much per square inch…both pain and pleasure.
It’s so painful when our natural curiosity, fascination, impulses,
fun, and goodness are turned IN on ourselves as accusation,
shame, humiliation, hiding, and desperate pretending.
On the other hand, being in question #4 and then turning it around…
There’s gentleness, passion, hilarity, pleasure, love, goofiness (that’s me)
and laughing at ourselves…and having another playground to explore.
We even talked about our male and female “equipment” and letting it
have its life…
…like watching people just do what they do without judgment…
what IS… as if watching as aliens from another planet and just
seeing what this interesting species is all about.
It’s such a freeing perspective not to analyze every little breath we take
and criticize every thought and impulse…which is soooo exhausting!
And not very good foreplay, either!
It’s hard to have fun or passion with your THINKING
looking over your shoulder with a scowl…tapping it’s foot…
ready to rap your knuckles if you put an eyelash out of line.
So be gentle with yourself with everything sexual about you…your
shape, your smell, your thoughts, your desires, your “equipment!”
Sending love and acceptance and fun,