Someone wrote to me saying Grace Notes are too long.
I’ve heard it before (big surprise, right)?
Who would have known the quiet one in the back could wax on, chattering away, or raise their hand and share, or go on stage to perform or lead a retreat, or write daily notes.
But I LOVED that honesty. Very refreshing.
When people give me real, authentic feedback, I am honored.
So let’s see if I can make this shorter today….(stop jumping for joy, I saw that).
Here’s the way to clearly identify your stressful concept: “if someone offers a criticism, a correction, a preference, a suggestion….it means ______.”
Pick any time you felt a jolt in your gut or maybe a waft of disappointment drift by when someone shares with you some feedback, fill in that blank.
The stress feels like this:
Oh. Bummer. Rats. Shoot. I did it wrong. I need to change. Eck. They shouldn’t say that. They don’t like me. Embarrassed. Dang it. Hmm. Sad day. Help. No. Ouch.
Now, you’ve got several thoughts written down. Then you take one of them through the four questions.
Who would you be without the belief that you did something wrong, or disappointed someone (and that’s wrong) or were too much, too little, off, inadequate, mistaken, you lost out, it hurt?
“When I don’t look for approval outside me, I remain as approval. And through inquiry I have come to see that I want you to approve of what you approve of, because I love you. What you approve of is what I want. That’s love–it wouldn’t change anything. It already has everything it wants. It already IS everything it wants, just the way it wants it.” ~ Byron Katie
Turns out, today I don’t think, research, contemplate or spend so much time on Grace Notes. I could use more time.
Oh boy, I love that person. They gave me such great advice!
“The Master doesn’t seek fulfillment. Not seeking, not expecting, she is present, and can welcome all things.” ~ Tao Te Ching #15
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