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Have you ever noticed a whole belief system running in your mind that feels like a dark storm?
I can’t do it. I can’t make it. I failed. It’s over. This is terrible. I lost. It’s no use. I don’t know how. I’ll never get what I want.
Have you ever experienced a big blow in your life….
….or a series of disappointments….
….and found a voice in your head saying thoughts like these, maybe over and over again?
How do you feel about desiring things, moving towards something, having dreams and visions…..and maybe not achieving it, or getting to where you’d like to be?
Phew. It’s rough.
The thing is….
….you can question your thinking when it comes to “failure” and investigate to see if what’s going on in your mind is really, really true.
Questioning with an open, curious mind can bring you not just relief, but the incredible perspective of the turnarounds, and actually living with the OPPOSITE of what you’re thinking when you’re in that dark place.
Not long ago, an acquaintance of mine graduated from a program in mental health with her master’s degree. She had loved being in a high-level educational program, she was doing something she had dreamed of for years.
She rented an office downtown and hung her shingle up “Open For Business!”
And waited for new clients.
Then she had one person come, for two sessions. But the new client didn’t return.
She waited again.
So she gathered her forces together and advertised, made flyers, went to networking meetings and furiously applied her former PR skills to getting clients.
But things limped along, very slowly.
I offered to facilitate her in doing The Work, but she didn’t know me very well and said “no, I just need to hammer away at this.”
I couldn’t help notice the words “hammer away at this”.
It reminded me of myself, pushing hard, running hard, tackling something I wanted to gain with a lot of worry, energy and intensity.
Doing The Work can save a lot of time, energy, busy-ness and action.
While this acquaintance didn’t choose to do The Work, like I said…..it reminded me of me.
First question: Is it true, what you’re thinking?
Oh. What did you say?
I was too busy ruminating, seeing pictures of terrible things happening, and feeling anxious.
What did you say again?
Oh! Is it TRUE?
Huh. Wow. Well, heck! Not really. I have no idea!
How do you react when you think these thoughts of failure? Even potential failure?
What does it feel like when you’re not getting where you want, what you want, who you want, or how you want it?
You may have the same reaction as the woman I mentioned…..you might hunker down and “hammer” away at the problem.
You might get really disciplined and full of striving and struggle and effort.
When I had no money left and watched my bank account empty and then go into debt, I began to react by thinking these same kinds of thoughts, and then I thought maybe its better to be dead.
Really, it was that harsh and black.
Then I did The Work, thank goodness!
So…who would you be without these despairing, negative, frightening thoughts?
What if you used your imagination to see a new way, without these thoughts, rather than seeing the sky falling like Chicken Little?
Turning the thoughts around:
I can do it. I am doing it. I am making it. I am succeeding. It’s just beginning. This is wonderful. I’m winning. It’s of use. I don’t know how (yay!) or I do know how. I’ll always get what I ultimately want.
This is not to be full of fluffy bunny positive affirmations.
This is deeply considering the benefits of what has occurred, and waiting, noticing, opening and being with joy and love instead of disappointment and hate.
I noticed for myself that I was still alive!
I noticed I was going through something incredibly wild, but actually my little cottage was quiet, beautiful and nurturing. The lights were still on. The phone still worked. The water was still connected. There was still gas in my car. The garbage company still came to pick up my garbage.
I also remember I had a picture of me telling my story of losing all my money one day, and giving other people hope to keep breathing and question their beliefs through a terribly difficult period.
I saw benefits for what was going on with lack of clients and lack of money. I noticed my dive into “no money” generated passion, power, huge energy within me…..I wasn’t so quick to give up or not bother.
I also became willing to question OTHER stressful thoughts like that I was too shy or introverted to be able to succeed in my own business.
Or not good enough to really be effective in life.
Who would you be without your story of self-criticism, judgment and doubt?
“When people see some things as beautiful, other things become ugly. When people see some things as good, other things become bad. Being and non-being create each other. Difficult and easy support each other. Long and short define each other. High and low depend on each other. Before and after follow each other. Therefore the Master acts without doing anything and teaches without saying anything. Things arise and she lets them come; things disappear and she lets them go. She has but doesn’t possess, acts but doesn’t expect. When her work is done, she forgets it. That is why it lasts forever.” ~ Tao Te Ching #2
Much love, Grace
P.S. September 2015 Year of Inquiry mastermind group begins. An awesome journey with awesome people, inquiring together. For 3 weeks in every month, 3 times every week, you can dial-in with a fabulous group of inquirers and do your work. There’s nothing like the power of group support and connecting for becoming curious, open-minded, and finding the shifts of un-believing that you so desire in your life. Freedom. Registration opens soon!